The Reason Why

Why am I taking the time to create a blog and devote myself to this?  I believe I have hit on something that can offer a change in how you consider your value in life…your self-worth.

What I have is an opinion that offers a paradigm shift in how you can think about yourself, without relying on other’s opinions of you in order to feel valued as a human being.

Am I a licensed therapist?  Nope.  Have I received professional training?  Nope.  Does my current occupation operate in the self-help realm?  Nope.  Am I a trained or professional writer?  Nope (I’m sure you’ve figured that out by now).

But, what I AM doing is providing my own personal thoughts on how I have coped over the years. I’ve felt invisible and felt like if I didn’t conform to [fill in the blank], I had less value on this earth than “they” did.  These feelings have shaken me….deeply.

As a teen, I saw the cliques that placed you in groups by topic:  rich, poor, stupid, smart, jock, cheerleader, nerd or pothead to name a few (that one just dated me!).

When my children went to school, I saw how the cliques operated that wreaked havoc on them and it broke my heart.  If they didn’t conform to the clique or didn’t have the qualities “they” defined, they were an outcast.  I saw how these groups caused them to feel devalued…worthless.

I’ve watched family and friends spend silly amounts of money to buy “name brand” this and that in order to feel like they meld with the mainstream.  I have nothing against anyone that enjoys making those purchases, but, I’ve watched how people I know purchase what they can’t afford, just to fit in.

I have experienced OVER AND OVER feeling invisible at work…I’m sure you have too! And I’ve watched others take credit for what I have done.  I’ve even had a couple experiences in my work that could have been considered emotionally abusive because of how I was treated.  I can’t begin to describe how defeated, worthless, powerless, cornered and hopeless I’ve felt.

Alright…..I’m sure you get the picture!

I’m also sure you are asking yourself what could she have “hit on” that helps in these types of situations?  Well, it was a phrase that came to my mind one day when I just had enough.

What happened?  Once more, I was in a situation where I was being passed over, devalued, made to feel invisible.  Truthfully at my age, I’m beyond over it.  I am not a person that embraces conflict.  Oh no!  I run away from it…yes I do!  But, on this particular day (the one I will refer to as “the incident”), I was ready to make a drastic decision in my life that would have been very bad for me and my family.  I processed through my feelings with my best friend at work and she helped to calm me down (can I get a Hallelujah??!!).

But, that evening and the next day, it was still eating away at me! I needed for all of those negative emotions to stop!  Every time I thought about “the incident,” adrenaline would shoot through my body.  I’d become teary and upset all over again. I thought to myself “this is SO STUPIDWhy do I care about this person??”  They didn’t care about me in the least!  They never do or say anything unless it either 1) benefits them or 2) is related to their work “besties”.  I knew all of these negative feelings were hurting no one but myself.

So (and here comes the faith-based part of my blog), I started praying to Heavenly Father.  I needed Him. I needed Him to show me how to get rid of these feelings and to know how to protect myself from people like the ones I feel that I’m always dealing with.  I was alone in my car driving home, pondering what to do, and the phrase “I matter to who matters” popped into my mind.

 

2 thoughts on “The Reason Why

  1. I love that you say this phrase just popped into your head! When I pray and am seeking for guidance, I find that many of my answers come in those “random thoughts”. If we choose to believe there are no random thoughts and will act upon the good things that come to mind, we can truly allow the Spirit to guide our lives. I’m glad you are acting on and sharing your random thoughts.

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  2. Thank you! Those moments are definitely a “leap of faith” for me. Sometimes it’s hard to feel that something so random CAN be a prompting that can guide our lives. It is so much easier to not make any effort than it is to “step into the water first before the waters can part” to reference a story from the scriptures (Joshua 3:13)

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